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Been craving a little downtown action lately? Some of the best oral sex toys on the market might just be able to scratch that itch for you.

“The type of stimulation you get from oral sex is hard to replicate, but when it’s done right, it can be so fun!” says Myisha Battle, a clinical sexologist, dating coach, and the author of This is Supposed to Be Fun. “Oral sex simulators help you get the benefits of oral even if you don’t have a partner.” And, of course, these oral sex toys make a great alternative in case your partner is, say, long-distance, traveling, or just not in the mood.

“Orgasms don’t need to come from penetration alone, and this is exactly what oral simulators do. They allow for a greater and more diversified pleasure potential without the need for another human being,” adds Rebecca Alvarez Story, a sexologist and the CEO and co-founder of Bloomi.

Many different toy companies have attempted to replicate oral sex—whether it's on someone with a penis or vulva—in many different ways, so there’s a wider variety of options available than you might think. “Look for the type of stimulation that you really enjoy from oral sex,” Battle suggests. “For instance, for vulva-havers, there are toys that suck, pulse, or lick. Think about what works best for your body and focus your search for products that deliver that sensation.”

Toys designed for penis pleasure can likewise suck, vibrate, flick across the frenulum in a tongue-like motion, and even heat up to create a realistically human-feeling sensation. “Look for sleeves made of quality materials, with options for textures and suction to really expand your mind and blow your... well, you get the idea,” suggests Destin Gerek, a sexologist, coach, and author of The Evolved Masculine.

Now that we’ve got you turned on, let’s get to the best oral sex toys for getting off. (Heads-up: we’re kicking things off with toys for the vulva and clitoris—if you want to jump down to the best oral sex toys for a penis, you can click here.)

Don't hold out—shop our top picks for the best oral sex toys right here.

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: 90 minutes How to Use: Apply water-based lube to the nozzle of the toy. Put it on your clitoris (you may need to experiment with positions to find the one that feels best). Hold the power button for one to two seconds to turn the toy on or off. Use the “+” and “–” buttons to scroll through the toy’s intensity settings.

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"The Satisfyer Pro 2 provides gentle waves of blissful pressure that envelop your clit, so get ready for some satisfying oral simulation!" says Gerek. "This little lover mimics a mouth's movements with soft fluttering pleasure that users say gets incredibly close to the real thing." This one's also fairly affordable, so it's a good pick if you're not sure whether you'll like pressure-wave stimulation, the technology that uses rhythmic pulses of air to indirectly stimulate the clitoris.

Pros: 11 pressure-wave intensities; soft silicone head for a better, more comfortable seal around the clitoris; waterproof; inexpensive for what it is Cons: Won’t fit all clit sizes

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: 65 minutes How to Use: Apply water-based lube to the toy’s nozzle before putting it on your clit. Use the two buttons on the toy to turn it on or off and to cycle through the toy’s 10 modes.

Another pressure-wave toy, this one went viral on TikTok, and it's easy to see why. Not only is its floral aesthetic adorable, but users say it also packs a punch. "Used four times for over 10 orgasms," one Lovehoney reviewer bragged. "Once you find the [right] spot, it'll take you for an amazing ride."

Pros: 10 suction modes; waterproof; travel lock function Cons: May not fit larger clits comfortably; short battery life

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: 4 hours How to Use: Apply water-based lubricant to the toy’s nozzle and place it over your clit. Turn it on with the power button and use the other buttons to control vibration speed and cycle through vibration settings.

This is one of the fanciest pressure-wave toys available, and comes highly recommended by Dr. Jess O'Reilly, a resident sexologist for Astroglide. "The Womanizer suite of products create the most unique sensations that can feel like a blend of sucking, massaging and pulsing," she says. In addition to a wide array of settings, the Premium 2 has an "autopilot mode," in which the toy decides when to dial up the intensity and when to calm things down. This results in an experience that's much more like receiving oral sex from an actual human being, since you're not directly in control of what happens when. Of course, if you want to take the reins again, you always can.

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Pros: 14 intensity levels; “autopilot mode” for a more realistic experience; comes with two different-sized stimulation heads for a better fit; waterproof; long battery life Cons: Expensive

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: 2 hours How to Use: Apply lubricant to the toy’s nozzle and place it on your clitoris. Control it with the buttons on the toy or by pairing it with the We-Connect app.

"If you’re looking for an oral sex simulator that you can use with a partner, the We-Vibe Melt uses the same Pleasure Air technology" as the Womanizer, Dr. O'Reilly says. "It’s sleek and thin so it can fit between your bodies during sex." The Melt can also be controlled remotely via the We-Vibe app, so this could be a good pick if you're in a long-distance relationship or want your partner to be able to pleasure you from afar while one of you is traveling.

Pros: Flexible nozzle for increased comfort; low-profile shape allows it to fit well between bodies during sex; 12 intensity levels; Bluetooth-controllable for short-distance or long-distance play; waterproof Cons: May not fit all clit sizes; can get noisy on higher settings

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: 1 hour How to Use: Apply water-based lube to your vulva and to the toy before using. Press the “+” button to turn the toy on, and then use the “+” and “–” buttons to increase or decrease vibration strength. Use the third button in the center to switch between vibration patterns.

This toy is "great for those wanting a slow, sensual build-up rather than a quick release," Gerek says. It features a "pleasure node," a small ball that rolls around under a layer of silicone and is supposed to feel like a tongue moving against you. However, unlike a human tongue, this toy also vibrates, creating a unique blend of sensations.

Pros: 10 vibrating modes; unique “pleasure node” feels almost tongue-like; waterproof; ergonomic looped handle makes it easy to hold onto; travel lock function Cons: May not be stimulating enough for some users; short battery life

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: 80 minutes How to Use: Apply water-based lube before using. Press and hold the toy’s one button for three seconds to turn it on or off. Press and hold that same button for one second to change the vibration pattern.

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This tongue-shaped vibrator flutters against the clitoris, or various other external erogenous zones, like nipples. "It's a perfect toy for people new to this kind of stimulation, and it is in a really reasonable price range," says Gigi Engle, a sex educator and resident sexpert for Skyn. Unlike suction or pressure waves, tongue-esque flickering can be quite gentle, so this might be a wise pick if you've found other toys too intense or suspect that you would.

Pros: 10 vibration patterns; textured surface for unique sensations Cons: Only water-resistant (not waterproof)

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: 60 minute How to Use: Apply water-based lube to the toy’s internal arm before sliding it inside the vagina, and to the clitoral nozzle before applying it to your clit. Use the toy’s two buttons to control its two functions, respectively.

If you tend to like your oral sex with a side order of G-spot stimulation (such as with a partner's fingers or a dildo), you'll probably enjoy this toy, which combines pressure-wave stimulation with internal vibration on the G-spot. In testing this toy, I enjoyed that each of its two functions can be controlled separately, so that, for example, you can increase the intensity of the clitoral stimulation while keeping the G-spot vibration as-is. Just keep in mind that toys like this one aren't terribly versatile—you basically have to use both functions at once in order to use this toy at all.

Pros: Strong, rumbly internal vibrations; 10 suction and vibration patterns; provides dual stimulation of the G-spot and clitoris; waterproof Cons: Loud; not versatile (it’s nearly impossible to use one of the toy’s two functions on its own); may not fit everyone’s anatomy depending on the distance between your clitoris and vaginal opening

Vibrating Pussy Pump and Tongue Vibrator Kit

Materials: Silicone, ABS plastic, and TPE (thermoplastic elastomer) Battery Life: 1 hour How to Use: Apply water-based lube to the toy and opt for suction, tongue, or vibration setting.

"Clitoral suction is one of the most effective ways to increase the intensity of clitoral orgasms," Engle says. The suction is not only stimulating in and of itself, but also increases bloodflow to the area, which boosts engorgement and sensitivity. "Pussy pumps" and "clit pumps" make use of this phenomenon, encouraging physical arousal—and this toy takes that principle to the next level. It's a pussy pump with a silicone tongue inside it that moves back and forth, so you get the full oral sex experience: sucking and licking. And as if that wasn't enough, it also vibrates.

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Pros: Combines suction, licking, and vibration; all three functions can be controlled separately; three suction patterns, seven tongue motion patterns, and 10 vibration patterns; handle can also be used internally for G-spot stimulation; waterproof Cons: Loud; large; short battery life

Materials: Silicone and plastic Battery Life: Not listed How to Use: Apply water-based lube liberally to all of the toy’s tongues (it’s easiest to do this while the toy is on). Use the toy’s two buttons to control its speed and mode.

The Sqweel 2 takes a novel approach to oral-esque stimulation. It's essentially a spinning wheel of silicone tongues, and creates the sensation of being licked. While it has its fair share of flaws— noisiness being one of them, and the need to dissemble it for cleaning being another—we love how this toy builds you up slowly and gradually to an orgasm that feels remarkably similar to the ones you'd get from actual oral sex. Just make sure it's super well-lubed at all times; dry tongues flapping against your clit isn't exactly the most pleasurable experience.

Pros: Realistic-ish licking sensation; three speeds; reverse mode; “flicker” function; includes travel-friendly cover to keep it dust-free when in transit or in storage Cons: Requires a lot of lube; bulky; uses disposable batteries; weakens under pressure; loud; not waterproof; cleaning process is more involved than with many other oral simulators

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: 2 hours How to Use: Apply water-based lubricant to your penis and to the inside of the toy. Turn it on by holding down the “Fun” button and use the other two buttons to control the vibration intensity.

While it looks a bit like a race car, this sex toy is actually a vibrator for your penis. "The Cobra Libre II treats the sensitive penis head to a deep, purring vibration that enfolds the head," says Alvarez Story. "There’s no need to thrust or stroke, just let the toy get to work, sit back, and enjoy." While it doesn't feel much like a blowjob, the way it surrounds your dick with sensation might make it easier to fantasize that the toy is someone's mouth.

Pros: Two powerful, rumbly motors; 11 vibration patterns; waterproof; travel lock function; can be used with or without an erection Cons: Very long charging time (16 hours); only stimulates the penis head, not the whole shaft (depending on your size)

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: 70 minutes How to Use: Hold the “+” button for one second to turn the toy on. Choose from eight different intensities with the “+” and “–” buttons. To turn the toy off, hold the “–” button for one second.

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This innovative toy uses the same pressure-wave technology found in many clitoral toys, like the Womanizer Premium 2 and We-Vibe Melt above, but focuses it instead on the sensitive frenulum on the underside of the penis. The sensation is somewhere between flickering, tapping, and sucking. It's sort of like a partner tonguing that sensitive spot, except really fast. "The pulsing air actually leads to a whole different form of orgasm, and for me, it was more intense than any of the others I have tried," one Amazon reviewer raved. "It takes a little time to figure out the best placement, angle, and pressure to use, but when I did, it was WOW!!!"

Pros: Offers unique “pressure-wave” sensation; easy to dissemble for cleaning; storage base doubles as a drying rack Cons: Noisy; expensive; won’t work for penises shorter than 3.5 inches

Material: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: 2 hours How to Use: Apply water-based lube to your penis and to the inside of the toy’s “wings.” Press and hold the “Fun” button to turn the toy on or off, or to cycle through its vibration patterns, and use its other two buttons to change the vibration intensity. You can leave it in one place on your penis or move it up and down as desired.

"Manta, a penis stroker, is designed to be great for solo play AND partnered sex," explains Alvarez Story. It can be wrapped around the base of your shaft while your partner gives you a blowjob, enhancing those already-great sensations. But it's fun when used on its own, too, whether you stroke it up and down your shaft or just hold it on one sensitive spot like the frenulum. "The ridges inside the Manta’s wings are designed to hold and evenly distribute lube for that silky smooth glide," Alvarez Story says.

Pros: Strong vibrations; flexible “wings” to fit a variety of penis girths; can be paired with oral sex and various other sex acts; six speeds and six patterns; ergonomic looped handle; travel lock function Cons: Only stimulates part of the shaft at a time

Materials: SuperSkin and ABS plastic Battery Life: N/A How to Use: Apply water-based lube to your penis and to the inside of the toy before sliding inside.

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If you want a Fleshlight stroker that feels like a blowjob, Gerek recommends this one. "Slip into Fleshlight Turbo Thrust to experience intense stimulation as ridges and textures massage your shaft from every angle," he says. "With variable suction control, you're in the driver's seat of this wild ride." This Fleshlight gets tighter at each end to mimic the feeling of lips and a throat around your shaft, while the middle is softer and textured like a tongue.

Pros: Realistic and pleasurable internal texture; can loosen or tighten suction by adjusting the end cap Cons: Requires thorough cleaning right after using; porous material won’t last as long as silicone; may not work for very large penises

Materials: Silicone Battery Life: 1 hour How to Use: Apply water-based lube to your penis and to the inside of the toy before sliding inside. Use the buttons on the toy to control its various functions and modes.

With sucking and tugging modes meant to mimic the sensations of actual oral, vaginal, and anal sex, this high-tech stroker comes highly recommended by Gerek. "Fleshy Pro is a rechargeable, waterproof male masturbator with an ingenious ready-to-cum button," he says. "Press it when nearing orgasm and experience unbelievable sucking sensations for a mind-altering climax."

Pros: Pleasurable internal texture; suction, tugging, and vibration functions; “climax mode” for an explosive finish; cleaning is easier/faster than with many strokers Cons: Not waterproof; might not work for large penises

Real-Feel Turbo Power Male Masturbator

Materials: Silicone and TPE Battery Life: 80 minutes How to Use: Apply water-based lube to your penis and to the inside of the toy before sliding inside. Use the buttons on the toy to control its various functions and modes.

This one earned a rave from long-time sex toy reviewer David at The Big Gay Review, who enjoyed its vibrations and internal texture. When you press the "Turbo" button, the vibrations rapidly increase in intensity, which could feel great as a "finisher." It's waterproof, too, so unlike a lot of mechanical strokers, you can take this one in the shower or bath with you.

Pros: three vibration motors; eight vibration modes and 12 speeds; pleasurable internal texture; “Turbo” mode; waterproof Cons: Loud; vibrations are somewhat muted; may not work for large penises

Materials: Silicone and ABS plastic Battery Life: 2 hours How to Use: Use the power button to turn the toy off and on, and control it with the buttons or the Lovense app. Apply a water-based lubricant to the inside and entrance of the toy before penetrating it.

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Lovense is known for the long-distance capabilities of their toys. This one, like others in their lineup, can be controlled remotely via the Lovense app, so your partner can give you pleasure from miles away. It's lovely for solo use, too, what with its suction, vibration, and heating functions. The warmth, in particular, can make it feel more like a human mouth, especially when you use a lot of lube.

Pros: Offers suction, vibration, and heating; long-distance controllable via Lovense app; squeezable grip gives you control over tightness; waterproof Cons: May not work for large penises

Materials: Silicone, ABS plastic, and aluminum alloy Battery Life: 2 hours How to Use: Apply water-based lubricant to the inside and entrance of the stroker, and slide it onto your penis. Control the vibrations with the buttons on the toy, or pair it with Lelo’s F1S app on your phone via Bluetooth and control it that way. The app is also where you can see data from the toy’s 10 sensors.

This toy's main claim to fame is its numerous sensors, which you can use to track data points like your stamina and thrust speed. But beyond that, it's also just a great-feeling stroker, with super-powerful vibrations and a soft internal sleeve. It's a must-have if you want to get nerdy and also get off.

Pros: Two powerful motors for satisfying vibrations; stimulates the frenulum well; comfortably flexible internal sleeve; sensors to track your speed and stamina via Lelo’s app; quiet; waterproof Cons: App is poorly designed/hard to use; may not fit all penis sizes

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